Thoughts flourish when we get emotionally involved with them.
That's great if you're connecting with positive thoughts. But not so great if you're connecting with negative ones. If you've ever found yourself trying to escape the vicious cycle of negative thinking, you'll know exactly what I mean. It's like the harder to try to get out of the cycle, the more bogged down you get.
But don't worry.
There's a great way out.
But it requires effort on your behalf. Just like weight can be lost with the right diet, routine and commitment to get it done, your thoughts can come back into line with the right program. You can train them to do so.
Here's how you do it:
- Think of your thought as something separate to yourself. (I like to imagine my negative thoughts as a fat 14-year-old boy who doesn't shower and never developed the ability to filter what goes from his brain to his mouth....he also has no friends. Obviously!)
- Recognise that the thought you're attaching so much emotion to is that fat, smelly teenagers.
- Allow the thoughts to be there and don't try and argue your way out of it (this kid won't listen and doesn't care about logic)
- Just ask him some questions like: Is there another way to view this situation? Have you left out any important information? Is your point of view enhancing my life?