I was five when I started school.
Eighteen when I left.
That's a pretty long time at school.
I learnt some extremely helpful skills when I was there. Things like the alphabet, how to add, subtract, divide, multiply, read, write. All good things.
But honestly, some of the other stuff wasn't very helpful.
In fact most of the time I was there, I was just going through the motions of getting my work done because that's what everybody else was doing.
As I got a little older though, I decided I didn't want to just go through the motions, simply because the other student's were.
So, I stopped doing most of the work.
This upset my teachers.
Especially Mr Stone.
He hated it.
Great bloke too.
On the days that I was having my little protest, I remember asking my teachers why I had to do the work. Answers like, "because I told you to" were used regularly, but that was a terrible answer. There was no motivation in that for me. Personally, if I was going to do the work, I needed more confidence that this stuff was actually going to be beneficial. I needed to know the purpose of why we were doing it.
I needed clarity.
I never felt like school was focussed on clarity. The teachers had to provide the content and I had to complete it. No questions asked. But I had lots of questions.
Thirteen years of that was enough for me.
When I did eventually leave school, I decided I was never going to just go through the motions in life again. I made a commitment to myself that if i was going to do something, I had to know why.
And it had to be a good 'why'.
A ship never sets sail without a destination in mind.
It would be crazy to get on a ship that has know idea to where it was sailing.
Yet, how many of us set sail through our lives without a destination in mind.
Without any purpose behind our action. Just doing what we've been told to do.
Maybe you're frustrated, stressed, confused, anxious, stale, flat and you don't know why.
Having trouble committing, continuing, pushing through, trying again.
Maybe if you establish why you want to achieve it, you'll find the motivation to get it done.
Maybe you've just been lacking a little clarity.
Whenever I feel like that, I make myself answer these questions.
Are you passionate about what you're doing?
Is it in line with your values?
.What is your desired outcome?
How will you know when you've achieved it?
What are the benefits of achieving it?
Often, answering these questions is all i need to do to get me back on track.
To remind myself why I'm heading in the direction I am.