The big lie of the self-help scene is that pain can be avoided.
It’s not true and it shouldn’t be our goal.
Rather, self-help, when understood correctly, helps us navigate our pain. Helps us understand that there’s a purpose in our pain. That strength and hope and life and joy are on the other side of our pain. That pain is not the end point, but a transition into a bigger, wider and deeper life.
Before a muscle grows, it's must first be broken. The same is true for your soul. If you avoid the breakdown, you can’t reach the build up. That’s why pain overcome is far more powerful and life-giving than pain avoided.
Listen carefully to what your pain is saying.
Your pain is not the end of the story.